Friday, June 22, 2012

ON BEING UNAPPRECIATED

You give them the world, they leave you with nothing; not even a simple gesture of appreciation. A simple "taas-kilay", a simple "Thank you!", a simple nod- Nothing.

This topic is very sensitive- just as sensitive as our hearts are when the person we love is seen with someone else, or when a very important person has said mean and unwanted things about you directly, or what is worse is without you knowing it, and you only found out about it from someone else. Yes, some might label this as so-highschool actions, but hey, not all of us mature that easy, or that early for that matter. But being immature, as commented by a couple of readers I have had on my previous post, "As Immaturity Fades", is not as bad as it sounds. It has its own advantages, and a bit more on the disadvantages, so my apologies to the whole balance of things concept.

Having said that, I believe each and everyone of us have already been exposed to these types of scenarios, particularly these types of people. We cannot blame them, though. It is not their fault. Not everyone has the same attitude as you. You might be very optimistic, while the other is not; you might be bubbly and enjoy talking, the other prefers being quiet and serious; you are sensitive to what others feel, while the other? Well, let us just say that there are some things- some people, that are better off alone. He or she might be alone because they want to be, while some are alone not because they want to, but because of the attitude they show towards other people.


In reality, no one wants to be left alone. More often than not, maybe that certain person is just troubled. Possibly, the desire to be with people around is always there; problem is on how that person shows that feeling.. The feeling of being with people; being cared for, loved, and wanted. We might not know, or maybe we are just unaware that we have hurt the feelings of other people, but it is not entirely our fault.



PHOTO FROM http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_hIMzxdgJhoo/TNKI0_TTzxI/AAAAAAAACIA/5xiHOvXof2o/s1600/mobbing_wb.jpgM

I know it is very disturbing, and my article is being very complicated because I refer it to myself, you, him and her. Why am I even this confused? Might I be affected as well?

In coming up with this post, my mind and heart was battered- filled with heavy emotions here and there. I was not even sure on what to write about, until it hit me- hit me hard like Mosley was on his very controversial fight with Pacquiao. Yes, it was that hard. All of his bruises symbolize the number of times I have been neglected, hurt, ignored- unappreciated.


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ENOUGH! Too much drama going on and I have to be a happy person as of the moment, considering all of the wonderful events happened and wonderful people met! Not to mention being followed on Twitter by one of my favorite authors ever, Joyce Meyer! Who would not be excited? *Elated*

BONUS PHOTO:




Mom gave me her SILVER Shu Uemura Eyelash Curler! Then, she bought the same, only it was a LIMITED EDITION, plus it is colored GOLD! But meh, I prefer the silver one. :)

47 comments:

  1. exactly my feelings right now lol. btw that shu uemura eyelash curler is a win win!

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  2. Aww.. You know sis, all of us go through a phase of confusion, pain and feeling alone. But we really can't control other people around us, only ourselves. So cheer up and just think of happy thoughts when you're feeling down. Try to appreciate yourself more. Other people may seem unappreciative, but when we love and give importance to ourselves, what other people show wouldn't hurt that much anymore.. :)

    Anyway, Shu Uemura eyelash curler is <3!!!

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  3. That's fine. Everyone experienced that whether they deserve it or not. Just be strong always kasi mas marami pang difficult situations na pagdadaanan natin. You can deal with it knowing your strong persona from your previous posts ;)

    xoxo

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  4. that's where friends come in... in moments we're down... just always keep in mind, no one's perfect and you can't please everyone. always pray. Yahweh bless.

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  5. Never mind, Trish. Just let go of the negative emotions. A similar experience happened to me and I was so disillusioned. In the end though, I just decided to let live and let go.

    I also have a silver Shu Uemura lash curler. They are the best!

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  6. Some people are just plain rude. For people who don't know how to say thanks and the like makes me think of them as uneducated people. They don't know, or rather they don't practice, the proper manners.

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  7. Things will be ok and alright. Just let go of the negative emotions and think positive thoughts.

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  8. I totally get you! I hate being unappreciated. But even if it's hard, I trrrrryyy to understand. I tell myself that it doesn't matter if they show their appreciation or not for the things I do because that's not what I'm after. I don't do things to be appreciated.
    Though, yes, a little sign of appreciation won't hurt naman.
    But bahala nalang sila~
    Smother yourself with positive thoughts! Haha

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  9. i really can relate with being unappreciated. i hate that feeling especially if you have given all the effort and that was unrecognized. :(

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  10. I so can relate :( I always say to my self that having one who appreciated cincerely is better than ten who just appreciated you because they just have to or obliged to do so. :)

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  11. true.. then we let go of the emotion, and/or we let go of the persons to their highest good.. then we become free, from expectations, from demands, from control.

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  12. it happened to me .friends come and go ,some whom you consider as your best friend left you for some reason and the worst part was ,you were never appreciated for the goodness that you have done to her before.Anyway, as long as my hubby is by my side ,i don't mind losing people I considered friends.

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  13. Sometimes you have to just live by the fact that you did something or did the task at hand and thank you's are not always given but personal satisfaction on a job well done can never be deprived.

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  14. Everything will come to pass and things will be ok...Things really happen. People may or may not appreciate you but that's the reality. The most important thing is how you will handle the situation. Smile and move on anyway....

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  15. I can definitely relate to that. So right! It's hard to tell yourself not to let it affect you so much but once it is learned, it lessens the harshness of the situation. Survival is key. =)

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  16. Just smile. When you feel happy, you'll have more reasons to be happy about. Don't mind the rest of the world.

    Rizza (beingwell)

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  17. Cliche as it might sound, but it's true, no man is an island. But the good thing is even if you're confused, being happy isn't something very confusing for you. :)

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  18. Sometimes that is hard to manage emotionally. But I guess, if it lead to a positive side if the effect is to motivate you to become better :)

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  19. Ahaha! I LOVE the bonus photo. I can't live without an eyelash curler. Hope that perked you up :)

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  20. There have been far too many times when I felt unappreciated myself; but it really can't be helped. That's why sometimes, I really try to lower my expectations from anyone. It just helps me with my emotions. :) Hope things get better for you, :)

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  21. In a world that is quite cruel, cheer up as you still have your sanity and yourself to move on and improve. ^_^

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  22. Been there, dear.. I feel you. But you know what? As long as you know that you've given your all, and still you feel like the others around you still do not reciprocate the same, then move on. It's better to invest all your time and energy on people who you know will always appreciate you. You can also see this as an opportunity to find which people are true and honest towards you. Those are the people that are truly worth keeping and fighting for. :) Hope alll is well with you now!

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  23. We cannot completely escape negative emotions, it's part of life. It will pass.

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  24. well that is life.. it is always a part of it.. it is what makes us strong and wise.. so learn from it..

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  25. Be strong! God is always there looking at you and do not worry about anyhting coz God is in control.

    I have that eyelash curler too in Silver and lovin' it
    it's the best and worth the price *wink

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  26. Every now and then, I also feel unappreciated. But I just shrug it off and tell myself, "It's not my fault." :)

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  27. I can relate to this post. :(
    By the way, i like the curler sis :)

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  28. This is a beautiful post Trish. We get this feeling once in a while. But cheer up, the curlash is really a bonus. :)

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  29. I love have that eyelash curler too~ It's normal to feel unappreciated at times but you just have to counter it with happy thoughts.

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  30. awww sad to know that you feel this way but all of us one way or the other pass thru this phase in our lives every now and then.. like me for so long now! hehe.. but those are realities of life.. all we have to do is hang on and never lose faith! Cheer up! Like my favorite motto, This too shall pass... ;)

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  31. ganyan talaga ang buhay.. di matatawag na buhay kong di tayo dadaan sa ganyang feeling once in a while :)

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  32. kahit gaano ka-badtrip ang araw, basta'y may shu Eumura, super smile na dapat kagad! hihi :)

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  33. i hope you'll really feel better, trish. it's classes already (and in jut a few more months, you'll graduate) and hopefully confusion, sadness and other heavy feelings won't take over the better you. :) take care.

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  34. This is part of life... as they said, "the typhoon lasts for only three days!" Even as I grew older in age, I continue to hope that people will appreciate what I do! But this does not always happen, and we have to do what we have to do for ourselves! As long as you are satisfied with what you did, people will be touched and somehow they appreciate you, although, they may not be expressive.
    Continue to be happy and touch peoples lives...

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  35. You are special, you're the only one
    You're the only one like you
    There isn't another in the whole wide world
    Who can do the things you do

    Oh, you are special, special, everyone is special
    Everyone in his or her own way
    Oh, you are special, special, everyone is special
    Everyone in his or her own way
    [ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/b/barney/everyone_is_special.html ]
    You're important, oh, you really are
    You're the only one of you
    The world is better just because you're here
    You should know that we love you

    Oh, you are special, special, everyone is special
    Everyone in his or her own way
    Oh, you are special, special, everyone is special
    Everyone in his or her own way
    Everyone in his or her own way


    Sing to that trish! Inna has watched that over and over again, and I think you did too. Never ever doubt the love you have around you, ok? love u!

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