Wednesday, September 12, 2012

WHEN IS A PERSON CONSIDERED "FC"?

"FC" is a slang, Filipino acronym for FEELING-CLOSE, which means being, well, too close to a person you either just met, or whom you aren't that close with yet ask personal questions that are beyond what you should ask.


People who are too friendly are often misunderstood as being FC, but is it really their fault? Are people just over-reacting? Do these things even make sense? If we were taught to make friends, why are people against it? Is it because of the usual status-quo issue? There are too many questions to this simple confusion. Too many and most of them aren't even supposed to matter.

Most of the cases of being called an FC is due to the wrong way of introduction. Try to be polite and not cross the line. Introduce yourself- name, why the both of you are in the same venue (e.g. classmates- usual reason), and then ask them for THEIR name(s) right after. Shake hands. Smile. Be confident. Once you're shy at the beginning, they will have a hard time being close with you. Though being shy isn't a bad trait, undoubtedly confidence is so much more attractive. Avoid talking too much about you. You're trying to make friends, not supporters, fans, or votes for an election or something.

Obviously when you've just met a person, asking questions regarding his/her LOVE LIFE is way too far. You don't even know the person that much and yet you ask for details on something as personal as this? Okay, okay. I might be too harsh on this. Asking primary questions such as if he/she has one or if they know the partner is still acceptable, but that's that. Stop right there. That is, unless the person you're asking questions to engages in the conversation more and more. If so, then go on. This is the reason I sometimes avoid talking too much to people I'm not that close with, but I also don't want to be called as a snob/"suplada". I'm pretty sure there are limits with the questions I ask and the actions I do when it comes to friends and, in some cases, mere acquaintances; question is, what?

"Can I come with you to lunch?" or "Wanna grab a bite?" are two different cases that people usually get mixed up with. Asking a person/group if you could go to lunch or any other place with them is okay, but the timing should be and feel (yes, feel) right; on the other hand, asking others to have a bite with you is a good gesture. You're inviting him/her to be more acquainted with you formally, so I don't think asking questions as this will make you seem like an FC. It's a polite move. Just don't insist much when they reject your offer. You never know when he/she is in a bad mood, or if they possess certain traits such as a short temper that might be the cause of the exact opposite of what you're planning on doing.

I guess that's just about it. The other points are too obvious. I just stated those that most people unconsciously commit and realize that, in the end, they were just too much. I hope my advice helps!

30 comments:

  1. Awwww, unless people become stalker-ish, I don't really mind them being too friendly. :) Well, maybe it's because I rarely come across people whom I would consider as "feeling close." :)

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  2. I totally agree with you on the "love life" part. It's like "HELLO! We just met five minutes ago and now you're asking the history of my relationships? I MEAN WHAT THE! LOL.

    BTW, nice post! I love it!

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  3. Love this post! Very trueeee we should have limitations. Maybe take more time to get to know a certain person because we do not want to be bombarded with unusual questions then get offended ^ ^

    Talking about relationship is a sensitive issue, me too I don't want others to ask me bout it esp. if they are not my close friends *wink

    Now I know what FC means lol :D

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  5. Nakakailang yung mga ganitong tao. I just don't mind them na lang.. anyway yung mga ganito kc minsan may purpose sila kung bakit feeling close sila,..

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  6. May mga taong sadyang friendly lang talaga and meron din na Feeling Close lang din talaga. Haha! I think being friendly is okay basta alam mo limitation mo. :)

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